Couples Counseling
Are you feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner?
Do you find yourself missing the warmth, safety, and closeness you once shared with your partner? Has your relationship started to feel more like a partnership in logistics than an emotional bond? Maybe you’re both busy with careers, parenting, or life’s demands, but deep down, you feel unseen, unheard, or unimportant to each other.
Perhaps you’ve stopped reaching out because you’re afraid of being misunderstood—or worse, ignored. Has a breach of trust, such as infidelity, shaken your sense of emotional safety? Are you wondering if it’s even possible to get back to the sense of connection and love you once felt?
When our primary relationship feels strained or distant, it can affect every part of our lives. The pain of disconnection often goes beyond arguments—it shows up in silence, avoidance, and that lingering ache of loneliness, even when you're physically together. You may long to be truly known by your partner again—to feel like you matter, to trust that your needs and emotions will be met with care. But the longer disconnection lingers, the more it can begin to feel like a gap too wide to bridge.​
All couples struggle!
Most of us didn’t grow up witnessing secure, emotionally attuned partnerships. We weren’t taught how to express our needs in ways that invite closeness, or how to navigate conflict without losing connection. As time passes and the initial glow of a relationship fades, unmet needs and unresolved hurts can create emotional distance. Without realizing it, we fall into patterns of protest, withdrawal, criticism, or silence—each a way of protecting ourselves, but one that often drives our partner further away.
The truth is, we all long for connection. When that bond is strained or severed, it hurts—because it matters. But even if you're caught in a painful cycle right now, there is hope. You don’t have to stay stuck.
Couples Therapy can help you build emotional intimacy
In a safe, supportive space, couples counseling offers you and your partner the opportunity to slow down, tune in, and reconnect. With the guidance of an experienced therapist, you can begin to understand the deeper emotions underneath your reactions—often fear, longing, shame, or sadness—and learn how to express them in ways that invite empathy and closeness rather than defensiveness or conflict.
Through an attachment-based lens, I’ll help you identify the negative patterns that keep you stuck—often cycles of blame, withdrawal, or emotional shutdown—and guide you in building new patterns of secure connection. This means learning how to turn toward each other, even in the hard moments, and co-create a bond where both of you feel seen, valued, and emotionally safe.
You don’t need to fix everything overnight. You just need to be willing to show up, together.
Our Approach to Couples Therapy
We have helped more than a thousand couples navigate the complex terrain of emotional pain, miscommunication, and broken trust. Our work is grounded in attachment theory, neuroscience, and practical communication tools. We don’t just help you “problem-solve”—we help you understand each other on a deeper emotional level and rediscover the connection that made you choose each other in the first place.
In our work together, we will:
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Create a safe, nonjudgmental space for open conversation
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Help you slow down and identify core emotional needs
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Teach you how to respond to your partner with empathy and presence
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Guide you to repair ruptures and rebuild trust
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Offer tools to strengthen intimacy, teamwork, and long-term closeness
This work is not about blaming—it's about healing and rediscovering the emotional bond that helps both of you feel secure, supported, and cherished.
"What if my partner doesn't want to attend?"
If your partner isn’t ready, you can still begin.
While it’s ideal to attend therapy together, you can still do powerful work individually. Exploring your own sexuality, identifying your needs, and learning to communicate more effectively can all spark change—sometimes even inspiring your partner to join you down the line.
"We have tried therapy before. It didn't work."
We understand that past experiences may have left you discouraged. Our approach is collaborative, emotionally attuned, and rooted in helping couples heal attachment wounds—not just manage surface-level conflict. Let’s talk about what didn’t work last time and see if this process might feel different.
You can Improve your relationship. You can feel close.
You can feel connected and loved.
No matter what your starting point is, with the right guidance and support, healing and growth are possible. We offer a free 15-minute consultation to help you explore your options, ask questions, and see if we’re a good fit.
You deserve intimacy that feels safe, passionate, and meaningful. Let’s begin the journey together.
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"I am 31 and still single. No matter what relationship I was in, I ended up with "the bad guy." I couldn't figure out why I was so "unlucky" and always ended up with men who treated me badly and did not appreciate me. Working with Ivy was an eye-opening experience. She helped me pick up on my dysfunctional thought patterns, my poor choices, and what I was doing that was compromising my happiness. Not only that, but I got to understand that my low self-esteem and history of abuse/neglect from my father was leading to this pattern. I have gained awareness and confidence and am now in a relationship with a 'good guy.'"
Jane, 31
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"When I first came to see Rivka, I had not been able to have intercourse in over a year. Being only 22 years old, I knew that this did not seem normal. My college health center sent me to see her for therapy. Through treatment of my generalized anxiety as well as my anxiety about sex and my body, I was able to successfully achieve intercourse (and pleasure along with it!) in a few short months. She was warm, caring, and easy to talk to. This was well worth the investment! I cannot thank her enough for helping me with such an embarrassing and anxiety-provoking problem.
Julie, 22